Where do I draw the line between friendship and flirtation?

I’m a lesbian in my 40s with a “straight” friend who seems really touchy-feely. She is always rubbing her breasts against me. We’ve been friends for a year, and she’s been in relationships with men, identifies herself as heterosexual and says she has no interest in women as partners. Yet her behavior is perplexing. Is she just being flirtatious, or is she confused?

There’s a line between flirtation and provocation, and your friend sure seems to have crossed it. That’s not the way friendship normally works; no wonder you’re perplexed. Why not ask her whether she’s aware that she’s constantly rubbing against you? You then are obligated to tell her if she’s rubbing you the wrong way.

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